By John Hooper

Getting over your ex is something that most of us have to do at some point in our life. Some people more than others. When the ex means a divorce in involved then the break up is all the more harder.

It is said that time is a great healer and that is true, but also taking action is vital. Just what action should you take?

Here is some practical advice to deal with life after a break up, relationship break down or divorce.

1. Make a clean break.

As tempting as it can be, if you are still in love with your EX, and they don’t reciprocate the feelings and intensity, then you’re better off making a clean break. This is true every time. Ex lovers rarely make good friends after a break up.

2. Delete all telephone numbers, email address and the like that contain your ex’s details. Keeping temptation at bay is vital.

3. Clear out as many personal items as you can. Obviously keeping practical stuff is important, but, if you’re using your ex’s left behind items to remember them, then that’s no good. Clear them out as soon as possible.

4. Treat yourself. Make sure you get used to enjoying yourself without your ex partner. Prove to yourself, your ex and others that you can smile again in spite of the circumstances. A divorce doesn’t mean you can’t laugh a lot.

5. Let your frustrations, anger and bitterness come out. Write down your feeling or get some counselling. Even if it’s just a friend who will listen to you for a while. Blow off steam – it’s natural.

6. Cleanse your current situation by buying new things for the house. New bedding and kitchen utensils are something you use every day. Get new items. Your life is still going to go on so distance yourself from the things you used with your ex. It will work wonders for you.

7. Give yourself time to heal. You don’t need to rush into a new relationship until your ready. Advice given to me as I was going through my divorce was to ‘clear the decks emotionally.’ Superb advice, you don’t need to rebound till its right for you.

8. Eliminate any negative self-talk. It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself after a break up. It can help you only for a very short while at the beginning. If you keep talking yourself down then you’ll find it harder to move on when the time is right for you.

9. Take charge of your life again. Make goals. Set yourself challenges. Maybe you always wanted to abseil or jump from a plane. Maybe learning yoga could be right for you. The world is your oyster.

10. Take comfort in the fact that it does get better each day. Say to yourself ‘every day in every way I’m getting better and better and better.’ It’s true and most people who have been divorced will tell you that suddenly one day you realise that the rest of your life can easily be the best of your life.

About the Author: John Hooper has been through a divorce and has since become an authorised, fully trained and certified counsellor. His advice has helped many hundreds of individuals and couples get over difficult times in their lives. John advice is simple to understand and implement. John is an author and writes for the popular relationship advice web site

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